Assalamualaikum and Hello future mums and future dads :)
(let me pretend for a while that I have a huge crowd of audience)
Insomniac. That's not good at all. Torturing especially when I'm having 8 am class the next day. Well, that's not what imma talk about but yeah, whatever.
Basically, I went to Borders this evening to accompany Auntie Safiah spending her last pieces of 2 RM50 BB1M and I came across a book. Yup. The parenting Rules by Richard Templar :
Oh well, not that I'm sooooo excited to have my own kids but when I first saw this book, I was actually stunted and the first thing that came across my mind was, 'Come On! Parenting is not that hard until you need a book to guide you.' - fikiran seorang budak yang tak matang. Yes, I'm still a kid. hahaha
"YOU LOVED THIS PERSON ENOUGH TO HAVE BABIES WITH THEM. THAT'S SERIOUS STUFF"
this! This is one of the first few rules that the writer wants to emphasize. In a way, I am 200% agree with him. WHY oh WHY? Well of course, love sex and voila! there goes YOU :3 but to think of it back, IF a baby is born from a mother whom is not in a good relationship with the father or should I say rape cases or anything related. I believe, the children will never feel the love from the parents. Perhaps by looking at the kid's face reminds them of their partner or the father/mother which might only invite hatred. How are you going to raise a kid when all you can feel is just hatred towards him/her. So, yeap. True that you have to love the person that you want to have babies with.
"THEY'VE GOT TO LEARN TO PLAN THEIR OWN LIVES.AND THAT MEANS LEARNING THE CONSEQUENCES OF MAKING THE WRONG DECISIONS TOO"
Not to say that I'm an expert but this is somehow true. Let me tell you something, my parents are kinda open and we talk about stuffs openly even when it comes to 18sx stuffs. loll. No kidding. That's not the point. Well, the thing here is, my mum especially she never restrict me from doing things that I want and things that I like. Same thing goes to my dad. Everytime I'm in doubt and not knowing what should I do. As for example, during my first year, I was in MASUM team for Taekwondo and what happened was I just got back from a tournament and I had a minor injury and that was tear of tendon or ligament I can't recall. A week after, there was a Relay competition. USM OPEN. Soooo, a good friend of mine asked me to join his team for open category and knowing that I'm not fully recovered and still I wanted to run. (I used to run during my schooldays and because I miss those time as well I decided to team up with my other 3 friends to form a quartet) Called my dad to ask for his advice and as expected, 'Kalau rasa kaki dah okay larilah, kalau rasa tak okay lagi jangan. You should know better because we're talking bout your physical condition and if you are seriously into sports then you should train like any other athletes might as well take your own time to recover before kaki you lagi teruk'- something like that lah dia cakap. I decided to grab the spike and run. Well, you can guess what happened. My injury was pretty bad right after the event and it took longer than it should take to recover. Basically I kena smack on my face based on my own decision.
Yeap, have to admit that youngsters need to rasa kena kepala and muka sendiri then only they will know what they should and what they should not do. So yes, I learnt my lessons by making wrong decisions in life WITH my parents permission.
"IF YOUR CHILD NEEDS A GOOD SMACK NOW AND AGAIN, THEY'RE DEFINITELY THE KIND OF CHILDREN THAT SHOULD NEVER BE SMACKED"
Yup, kids like me love attention. How they gain your attention is by their own creative methods. Some of them want to be recognised by their great achievements in their studies, some might want to be recognised by their endless gold medals HOWEVER, bak kata orang melayu lah, Pisang setandan tak semuanya elok kan. So, kenalah ada black sheep. The bad guy, the bad boy, the whatever bad labels that stick on their forehead. I believe that one sweet day, the time will come. The time when you will have your own kids and their problems that you have to deal with. Never give a try on black and blue parenting skill with your not so bright children. They might be the ones that will be by your side when no one is there for you.
One of the reason why I flip through this book is because I wanted to know how good I am to my parents.hehe. I actually didnt buy this book because I'm broke.tsktskk. It is a good book seriously. Soooowwww, I guess I can only write until here. ermm. well. just another random thought. It's not how good you were raised by your parents. It's how you try to give yourself the chance to be a part of them and see the logic behind every decisions. Youngsters. We are all blinded by our needs, passion, and we even crave for attention and such but there are ways to express it and sometimes what we say and done might not be a big deal to us but yes to our parents. I believe that what goes around will always come back around. Your parents was once children to their parents. AND SO DO YOU.